Some of you asked me, why given up a good living in Jakarta with managerial position, good salary and good reputation to go to New York with middle position, decent but minimal salary and no reputation? On top of that, why made a move when I already in my 30s and still not married. Well, sometime I also asked myself, why?
Career
Career-wise, my decision was a step back in career point of view. I was already in managerial position, 8 digits salary (in Rupiah, of course) and had a huge network among multiple disciplines and industries. It was a good career and I was on my way to the top. Here in New York, I was working as a middle position knowledge worker, slightly above standard rates salary and no network at all. In other words, I was pressing a reset button in my career path.
I left my career and the opportunity to climb the higher ladder of position. I even abandoned my 3 years of teaching career.
Rent and Commute
Living in New York is very expensive, especially the rent. Most people were paying around 30%, even 50%, of their salary for rent only. Another 25-30% went into tax. At the end, people were getting 40-50% of their total salary to pay bills, food, entertainment and saving (or investing). That was not much and it would take a good judgement to spend the money wisely. Living like the girls (and boys) in Sex and the City and Friends TV series was a myth. Unless you were born or stayed in Manhattan for more than 20 years, I did not think those TV series lifestyle would be affordable for most New Yorkers. That would be another story, I was still surveying and writing about the reality of rent price in New York.
Commuting was another story. Currently it took me around 45 minutes to commute every working days to the office using bus and subway. Almost the same when I was living in Jakarta. The different was I did not need to drive and fight with the traffic. Hopped in the bus/subway, found a good spot, read or sleep during the commute. Less stressful and more opportunity to rest or read.
Living Standard
Other than rent, New York is actually quite cheap for living, if you know the right place to get what you need. Lunch for $3-$5 was not unheard of, dinner for less than $10 was possible and for sure it would be cheaper to cook on your own. Groceries were cheap, again if you know the place, and there were a lot of bargain shopping around the city. Especially in this bad economy, almost all stores were cutting their prices so people could afford to buy their stuffs. If people could not buy anything then the economy would halt and it would cost more damage than it already was. It would take some experiences, experiments and street smart skill to live as comfortable as possible without sacrificing too much.
Sure, living in Jakarta was way cheaper than living in New York. Rent price was affordable for a start. Lunch for less than $1 was still available, right? Transportation was also cheap, around 30¢ for one busway trip (it used to have a monthly ticket without discount rate but somehow that convenience was eliminated). Phone and cellphone rate, electricity, water were cheaper too and no need to pay for heating.
On the other hand, according to my ‘Starbucks Economy’ point of view, living in Jakarta was also expensive. Using my standard not-so-scientific comparison for the price of a single cup of Starbucks coffee it would goes like this: It was $1.65 for a tall black coffee here and it was Rp. 18.000 in Jakarta. It was practically the same price! Lunch/dinner in the restaurants could cost around Rp. 50.000++ per person; which translated into around $4.5++ here; which of course a bit cheaper. Car price was enormous with or without insurance. Clothing price were varied, branded clothes practically had the same price as here. Electronic price was a bit cheaper but not much, especially computers. Books were on the same ground and most of the time, even more expensive than the original printed price in US dollar (of course to be fair, add around 8-9% of sales tax in here).
Dropped the rent price and suddenly living in Jakarta was as expensive as living in New York. To be fair, it was not exactly the same but I was just trying to share my view.
Decision
Combining all of the factors above, the question raised again: Why the move? Why bargained everything I had for something uncertain? Why now?
There were no easy answer to that questions. The only thing I could think of was; I want change. Three years living back in Jakarta was teaching me a lot about how low people expectation of good quality of life could be. “It’s Jakarta, traffic is always packed, police are always corrupt, raining always means flooding, what do you want? It’s Jakarta”. Was it? Or was it because people did not know any better?
Maybe that was my main reason, I wanted to know more about the world. I wanted to grow, I wanted to experience something new, something great and something different. Even if it meant to throw my current comfort away, I would do it anyway. No regret, no remorse and embraced the unexplored.
Now I really understood the deep meaning of Frank Sinatra’s song, New York, New York:
I’ll make a brand new start of it – in old New York
If I can make it there, I’ll make it anywhere
It’s up to you – New york, New york!
It’s New York, the city that never sleep and I am living in it.
Welcome to a brand new life!
Whenever you got the chance to expand your horizon – I say seize it ! Life's wisdom can't be measured by monetary values. So, good for you. Especially when you're still single – it'd be harder to be done if you've got a family already to haul around as well
Excellent analysis too on the living costs on both places.
If you're a man of dreams, which I think you are, you may wish to start looking around to establish a business. If you've got a business which require little attention from you, then you'll be able to spend most of your time to focus on your dreams.
Anyway, good luck, and take the most from this opportunity. Enjoy !
btw; I was in a similar position – was in the managerial position (head of IT), but then I chose to reset my career. It was much worst actually – I begun my new life in UK as student (again)
And I already got a family, with 1 baby.
It was really harsh, but sometimes you do need a truly strong challenge to bring out a better you.
After a year I managed to snatch a senior position in Birmingham. I moved my family to the new home, and started the new life there.
You're absolutely correct about not falling in the comfort zone. Even when people said that I've found the perfect life, I still try reassess my situation routinely, from as many perspectives as possible.
Six years later I decided that I'll need to pursue the path to be a businessman. Based on my assessment, very little chance for me to realize that in UK. So I went back to Indonesia. Yes, as bad as the situation was, there are still much more opportunities for business here. And the barrier of entry is much lower as well.
Well, that's my story so far. Looking forward to read yours !
Thank you again for sharing and inspiring. I also in the middle of deciding something about my life and my career. Especially because I do have married and have son.
I'm happy, but again, not satisfied.
And I'm entering my 30's. Woot!
About Starbuck Economy point of view… Oh come on, the style is different, the sense is different. Paying a cuppa Starbuck coffe in Jakarta is also paying the style. People around you are people with affordable money that can buy. While in New York, it is just a cup of coffe. Everbody drinks that, no big deal, and rarely 'kongkow' like in Jakarta. I feel the same way as you do. Here, I'm just nobody. Meaning I can do whatever I want. Yiiihhhaaa. Wait a minute, I can't do it!! Otherwise, people will start labelling me "that Indonesian, poor country, Bitch". Oh my…
Thank's for sharing sir.
I experienced the similiar. Left my job and landed to a place worse than the new but i have to say the money is good.
BTW, Thank you for sharing with us. I'm looking forward to your next post. I hope someday, I'll have my feet set somewhere in US or France.
This is one real experience of a well-known phrase: "Leaving our comfort zone".
Thanks.
First of all, congratulations on your new job. I left the country (Indonesia) about 8 years ago. Although I have never lived in Jakarta; but I know how people live in Jakarta.
I agree with you… I left the country because I was looking for a better quality of life. I never regret my decision.
Btw, you're still lucky if you can get 40%-50% from your gross income to pay everything else. Some people have mortgage, which would reduce their gross income significantly. Well… I don't live in New York; so not really sure if this is true.
"still not married"
u marry ur dreams… ha!
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Yup… the same reason for me … "looking for a better quality of life (and money:)"
but of course some day I would love to go back to Jakarta and establish my own business… God knows when…
meanwhile I'll stick around in this freezing country
I think it's all about choices… and more to that – aim – what is it that you aimed in life?… Do you want to add more zeros in your account, do you want to settled-in or do you actually wanna do more than JUST that?. And It's all fair, because people have their own reasons.
I think success cannot be measured of whether you are already in the managerial positions or still in middle or junior posts. The key is that whether you have contribute enough to your surroundings?.. will you be missed when you are gone?. Will good progress stops or valued less without your involvement?. Doesn't matter whether you are in NY or in Afghanistan.
My point is most people (at least the ones that I know), won't take much risks, and sure.. fair enough for them. Just cause they already have good job, good house, good car, they are all in their comfort zones, and probably to afraid to take a risk (or think they are too old for that). Perhaps they just don't know any better.
My point is risks are not for everyone, but when you do take them, there maybe some great surprises that you'll experienced in life, those that even money cannot buy.
So good for you on taking NEW challenges in NY.
I'd say, it's better to be small fish in the big pond rather than big fish in the small pond. You'll suffocate!..
I'm leaving my comfort zone last year and still struggle for best.